Brogan's Blog

There’s something special about seeing a movie on the big screen at your favorite local movie theater. It’s just not the same at home. Besides, who wouldn’t want to pay $7.00 for a “Junior” sized popcorn. But I can’t help but notice a few things when I’m at the movie theater that I just don’t understand. Nachos?  – I have nothing against nachos. If you enjoy some yummy tortilla chips and some fake cheese (probably melted plastic) more power to you. But Nachos at the movie theater? It just doesn’t make sense. The movie theater makes such a big deal about no talking and use of cell phones during the movie that they have forgotten about the crunch of a nacho chip. Yep, the last thing I need to hear during the movie is the loud crunching and munching of the moviegoer next to me. Stick with the popcorn. It’s quiet. The Awkward Armrest  – All movie theaters now have chairs with armrests and cup holders. It makes sense and it’s a great thing. But how do you know which armrest is your...

  There is an Ernest Hemingway quote floating around the internet that says “Write Drunk; edit sober.” Well, the jury is still out if Mr. Hemingway actually ever said these words, but it’s still an interesting concept. So interesting I am going to give it a try. Why not? Let’s see what will happen…………………….. If you know me very well, you know it doesn’t take too much alcohol to get me feeling pretty good. And just for the sake of not having to feel like crap, I am not going to get crazy drunk. Just some buzzing. That should be enough to make me open up my mind a bit and make it interesting. See you in a couple drinks. Today I moved. Most people get sad when they move. Especially under the circumstances of my move. But, I’m happy. Even excited. I am ready for this chapter to close. This ends a chapter of my life that I have learned a lot from, but don’t want to visit again. It opens up my life to a whole new book full of awesome things to come. In fact I have never felt this alive. I...

  I’ve learned a lot about myself and life the last few months. Before that I believe I was in zombie mode. Just going thru the motions trying to get by day to day. I would have little flashes of life, but then I would slip back into being a zombie. Walking around feeling numb, not truly living life. I pushed aside my wants, my needs and the life I really wanted. Looking back at it now, I think to myself what a waste of time! All those years that I will never get back. But I could dwell on that all I want, but it doesn’t change anything. What I need to latch on to and learn from is I never want to be a zombie again. Zombie’s are the walking dead. Right? Well, it took a major life change acting as my defibrillator to shock me back from the dead. In my case the life change started in the form of a separation. I removed myself from a negative situation and it starting to bring me back to life. Then I got hit with a huge bolt of electrical current in the form of another ...

The dictionary definition of happy is:  feeling or showing pleasure or contentment .   Words don’t really give the feeling of being happy much justice. There’s nothing like it really. It’s the best natural high you can get! A feeling of euphoria, a spark, a sunny feeling inside that can’t be matched. But, as with many things in life, you don’t really appreciate happiness until you don’t have it. Happiness had been evading me for quite some time. I didn’t realize it at the time, but now as I sit back and look at some of my past years I can see it wasn’t there. I wouldn’t say I was depressed or anything, but the happiness was drained from my soul. That spark of life had gone out. The true person who I am just wasn’t shining thru anymore. Tom was dead. But something happened as of late. A small spark started up inside me. It continues to grow and as each day goes on happiness is blooming inside of me. A sun is starting to shine, and I can feel a rebirth of Tom. I really can’...

Is the glass half full or half empty? I’ve heard that expression a thousand times in my 38 years. I bet you have too. So what’s the answer? Well, technically the glass is always full because half of it is filled with water and the other half is  filled with air. And that’s the way I like to think about things in life. In fact I should just be grateful I have a glass and something to drink! So much of life is how we choose to perceive things. And yes we have a choice. We can choose to find the negative parts of a situation or we can choose to find the positive. Choosing to see the negative has no benefit to you, so why not look for the positive, silver lining in everything? For instance, I am going thru some hard times right now. My 10 year long marriage is coming to an end. Now I can look at this and try to find every little negative part of this or I can choose to see the good that could come from it. The growth that will come from this could be amazing. Sounds crazy I know, but s...

  Lately, I’ve come to this conclusion. Life is full of failures! I am going to fail and continue to fail throughout my life. But, it doesn’t matter if I fail. What matters the most is how I handle that failure. Do I stand, up brush my self off and try again? Do I learn from my past mistakes that lead to the failure and grow from it as a person? Or do I lay down and just give up? That’s the point of my life I find myself in now. In my mind these past couple weeks I have been feeling like a failure. My marriage was not successful and now I find myself going thru a separation. It’s really not fair to myself to label myself as a failure because of this, but the thoughts are there nonetheless. So how do I respond to this situation? I could stay down, feel sorry for myself and just do what I gotta do to get by. What I’m going to do though, is pick my ass up off the ground and try again. And this time, with a little more wisdom from the bruises of past fails. That’s right, failure only l...